Thursday 29 May 2014

Barcelona Dreamin'

Last April we had planned to go to Seville to see some Flamenco.  We ended up not going because somehow I contracted a virus called Campylobacter and ended up super sick and all dehydrated and in the hospital for three days. 
Seeing real Flamenco has always been on my list.  I think it is something I inherited from my hispanophile father. Well, at least he was an hispanophile until he went to Spain on a tour after my mother died. Sadly, he was no longer impressed, but actually disappointed. He saw too many swastikas drawn about in the Spanish cities for his own comfort. 
Last week, while I was lucky enough to be in Barcelona with Dee and Alexa, I did see some swastikas. Two of them. Near the Miro museum.  I was thrown aback though.  They had circles drawn around them and lines drawn through them.   It was all in the same hand, done by one person. A little odd: Stamp out swastikas by drawing one and then drawing a line through it? Questionably effective at best.  I had to ponder that one, albeit is better than the alternative.

I have quite a lot of affection for graffiti and and I really appreciate public art. I see it as an interesting way to learn about the state of the heart of a city.  I look at graffiti for hearts and photograph them.  I have a running log of hearts from all over the world now.

Some cities have a ton of hearts and some don't. Oddly, despite the fact that there's a ton of graffiti in Barcelona (it's mostly contained to garage doors, kinda of like "obedient graffiti"...) there are very very few hearts. The two cities so far, where I've found the most are hearts are Jerusalem and, of course, Paris. But after being in Barcelona and liking it so much, I now question whether I can judge the amount of love in a city by its amount heart graffiti. 
 
So anyway, Flamenco. We did get to se an impressive late night show in a teeny venue, and absolutely loved it.  I was enthralled and I think I loved it more than I thought I could!  I think my father would be proud.  
Flamenco is like an in your face lesson in "damn right someone's done me wrong but I'm going to feel it and sing and dance about it anyway!!!" The dancing is so heavy. Stamping and stomping and banging. Wood against wood. Like a toddler having a fit. And it's also incredibly light and graceful. The songs are sung so high by men with the deepest of voices. It feels like everyone is straining. But, at the same time, not at all. Despite the songs being so full of angst and loneliness, there they are, in this close group, supporting each other. There they are. Dancing, clapping, singing. It's like they're saying,  "if you have a body, you need nothing else because then you'll never be alone." 
Flamenco seems like an art of opposites existing at once. Opposites that need each other in order to exist.  Maybe you can't fully understand one thing until first you feel it's opposite.  I could relate relate to that. After being so mad at life, now I can forgive life and let it be what it is. Embracing it I don't expect one particular thing or another. It is supposed to be a dance of opposites...

I loved the keys we got at our hotel room in Barcelona. They commissioned a number of artist to create designs for their key cards. One of ours was hot pink and said "OBNOXIOUSLY HAPPY" on it. I feel like that sometimes.  I took that key home. I'm going to frame it. Obnoxious. I know.

I also keep thinking of the Picasso museum in Barcelona. It's a very fresh and proud perspective of his work. They have the earliest of his paintings there. Self-portrait oil paintings done when he was a young boy of fifteen. They were as moving as Rembrandt. In the exhibit you are able to see him develop through the years as he passes through each period. His Social Realism paintings brought tears to my eyes. 
He had a heart wrenching ability to depict the sadness of loving a sick person.  This is called Science and Charity. 





As he changed it seemed clear that he trusted himself. He was able to continually reinvent his approach toward creating art. This exhibit celebrated how he was continually exploring and trying new things. 

There is one room at the Picasso museum that is so ornately decorated with gold leaf molding that hardly a painting could stand up to it. The curators were brilliant not to hang anything on the walls. They built beautiful glass cabinets in the center of the room that held the most charming oversized ceramic plates that Picasso made in his very late years. Each plate had a simple asymmetrical portrait etched or built into the center of it.


 
Childlike and so evolved, much Like Matisse's paper cut outs, I admire so much how these artists were inspired and working up until the last minute. Until they couldn't anymore. They lived very very full lives. Inspirational (to say the least).



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Sunday 18 May 2014

After the (Bar Mitzvah) Party's Over

(Written on 13 May)

What can I say post a party I'd been looking forward to for years? One I was not sure I'd make it to. One that taught me so much about friends and family and commitment. But mostly about generousity. Isaac, if you read this one day, I'd like you to know that you encompasses for me everything I love about Judiasm. You are a blessed child, and although I sometimes call you spoiled, you are not. You are kind. Studious. Committed. You are thoughtful. You deep down understand the Magic of this life. What I call 
G-d. You understand this crazy human gift we've been given and intelligently strive to perfect it; to perfect what G-d gave you. And also, you don't waste your time. I love that. I can not thank you enough for becoming a Bar Mitzvah. Although being Jewish can often be unappealing, considering Jewish history, and I know it would be so much more fun to just dance around the Christmas tree and not have to explore your Jewish side, you have done it with grace, and respect. Thank you. 

Your dad and I had the best time celebrating you this past weekend at your big party on a boat. I
Hope we didn't embarrass you too much. I love you, 

As I got my shots of Azacytadine last week, I, as always, was heavily grateful to Monique. Sometimes gratitude can feel so light and free. Like, "let's dance on the beach!" And sometimes it's just dumbfounding. Like being lost and adrift on a sailboat in the middle of the sea when some supertanker cruises by and notices you and pulls you aboard. Monique, you are my supertanker. 

We had so many friends and family surrounding us this last week. We had 14 people sleeping at our house in all crazy configurations. I loved it! I do think I was meant to live on a commune or kibbutz. 
We drank wedding wine with friends whose nuptials we missed three years ago due to my cancer and illness. 

I had the opportunity to much more deeply bond with family members whose relationships were thwarted when I was growing because of my devisive acting parents.  That was so healing!  I met the grown son of my first cousin Suzy for the first time! I took selfies with cousins with rainbows behind us and the giant illuminated midnight London eye in front of us.

I got to feed yummy barbeque and chocolate to seventy wonderful, well behaved, almost bizarrely mature 7th graders. So fun. 

And now I'm on a plane to Barcelona with my enlightened Aunt Dee and cousin Alexa. Seventy six and 21 respectively. I'm humbled that they love me and have celebrated every step of this journey with me. 
And hats off to my charming seven year old Ari who toasted his brother with such charm at the party that he brought the house with a huge ovation. Or I should say, he brought the boat down! 

I cried myself to sleep last night with how much I love life and how sad I am that we're all going to die one day. It's just so amazing here. It's paradise. Fresh air, rain, sun. Having a body to hug with.